If you are in Plan A, what are his top 5 emotional needs? And why do you think he is having these affairs? Does he still want to come back? After August, you didn't mention his view on your marriage.

(sorry I have not recovered my M yet but am a fan of Dr. Harley's concepts!)

me,34
exH,34
S,16 months
S:3/31/09-left for OW
started DBing 10/09
d final: sometime 10/10
current:
http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2022856&page=1
met in 2004