What's to stop him from taking out the rest of the money when you tell him you are leaving? What did your attorney advise you about protecting your share of joint accounts?
I contacted my cousin today and found out that he may not be available that weekend because his FIL is in town for the holiday. I have to come up with a plan B after all. As to the obvious choices- I can't ask my Dad (he's 66) and my brother lives in Houston. I'll come up with something,
Ask around at Church. Ask your pastor.
Gardener
"My soul, be satisfied with flowers, With fruit, with weeds even; but gather them In the one garden you may call your own." Cyrano deBergerac
I personally like (and have used many times) Puppy's technique if I need to let out the poison of sadness - shut the door to the bathroom, turn on the fan, grab a towel, bury my face in it and just let go.
And ain't it cleansing, cathartic, so good and exhausting (in a good way)?
Gardener
"My soul, be satisfied with flowers, With fruit, with weeds even; but gather them In the one garden you may call your own." Cyrano deBergerac
My atty suggested asking H about it and discreetly recording his answer. He said if I am entitled to half of it, I can get it back later, but again it makes H look real bad. I can't believe he did this!!
I bought a $19 Radio Shack digital voice recorder when I recently (some say wrongly) confronted my STBXW's lecherous landlord. They work great, easy, great quality, even when tucked away in a breast pocket (they're very small. Get one. For this and possible future needs.
Gardener
"My soul, be satisfied with flowers, With fruit, with weeds even; but gather them In the one garden you may call your own." Cyrano deBergerac
I don't like the idea of poking your H with a stick right now, before you have anyplace to go. In a way, I think that you knowing, and him not knowing that you do, puts you in a good place. If he finds out you know, he is going to hide everything, as fast as he can.
VH gets the Triple-Bingo Award for this spot on advice! Bingo, Bingo. Bingo!
Gardener
"My soul, be satisfied with flowers, With fruit, with weeds even; but gather them In the one garden you may call your own." Cyrano deBergerac
(((Bunny))) Stay calm, keep trying to get your plan together, a good plan. DO NOT broach the subject with him. Your safety is far more important than money. Let your L figure that all out.
I'll be sure and say an extra prayer for you tonight.
bim
BIM M 39 / H 40 / S 9 / S 6 / T 20 / M 11
my sitch: http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=1828127#Post1828127
I'm not saying anything, and I looked calm when I got home. Nothing unusual about Bunny tonight, just a little later than normal.
I called my parents before I came home and told them everything- lease, dates, cash... I'm calling a small local moving company tomorrow to see what they can do. I'm really only moving one room of furniture, so maybe they can squeeze me in. The rest of the furniture is going to have to come from elsewhere. My parents will help me front the cash for movers if needed, but that shouldn't be necessary. I'm taking my half of the remaining money immediately before I tell H that I'm out of there, so that will give a some money to get started with. The other benefit of calling a couple of strangers to help is that H is less likely to make a scene in front of them than he would with my family- especially if they are big, strong guys.
My Mom wasn't the least bit surprised that H took the money, and actually was surprised that I was surprised. She was very supportive, and that helped me relax. I'm still a bit stunned about what he did, but it's slowly sinking in. Maybe that was the reality check/reminder that I needed about him.
I can't sleep. I nodded off for maybe 45 minutes and woke up. Too many thoughts going through my mind- it won't quiet down and it's after 2am. This is going to the first of lots of long nights, I think.
