Hello, I was trying so hard not to come across as begging or pleading..Are you saying I can't just "matter of factly" state that all this" doing stuff" together just hurts and I don't want to get attached if he's just not interested?
And maybe I'm a bit naive, but I'm not exactly sure what you mean by acting "on the level" test...I'd like to understand that better if you wouldn't mind rephrasing just a bit.
To address Ron's point, I guess my confusion with that is because my Ex says it's not a matter of him wanting or not wanting to spend time with me, it's just something he does for our S's sake. Do you think that's not exactly true?
I am getting my life together, I'm on the fast track to that at least..I'm capable and never ask him for help unless there is something I have to do with one of my daughters and then I need him to watch our s.
All this just feels like a big game, to me, either you want something to work and both go for that, or one person tests the other and the other has to figure out how to pass without a rule book.. have you ever seen the movie "French Kiss"? Meg Ryan says when you're happy smile, when your sad, frown..ect...that's how I look at life. Forget the games and two people that care for each other can get there....this is just so mind boggleing. I have to figure out how to separate emotional attachment from logic, I think.. So....as the LBS, I probably shouldn't accept all invitations from him?, if any should even come my way anymore...I'm happy with who I am, I have a life taking care of 3 kids...one is out of the house already though, and balance a job, actually 2..do homework, go to school meetings for them as necessary, and have a nice bunch of girlfriends, oh and am avid gym member! I love my life minus when I feel someone is playng with my emotions... SO at this point just play a waiting game, right?
