my W doesn't regret her affair

[Gnosis]

Your amendment is fine. I'd suggest another amendment of that sentence to this:

for another year under these conditions is a sacrifice I'm not sure I want I'm not prepared to make.

Remember you have decided. You cannot demonstrate uncertainty. Be firm. The tone of your letter needs to be strong and clearly communicate your intention.

Only this will make her re-think. Also, I'd like to ask you this: Are you truly prepared to follow through with this?

The reason I ask is because if you budge a micrometer from that letter your credibility will be shot and you're screwed.

This is a last resort strategy. i.e. You becoming the WAH and she the LBS. This can go either way depending on how she feels.

Standard anger and puke: "You know I was going to give "us" another shot. I was almost there, and now you pull THIS on me!! See? I knew it! I knew I was right. You can't change!"

OR (don't get your hopes up)

"I've think we should give it another shot and take it slow." -- IF this happens be on guard. Be suspicious. Go ahead and LAY your boundaries on thick (e.g. transparency). DO NOT withdraw the legal action. Leave it in play. If she breaks your boundaries then its full steam ahead. This is her chance to regain your trust and prove to you she is worth of being called your W. Be patient and watchful.