I agree. 100% agree. I need to forgive him. Everytime I hopen my heart to him again he does something like go back in the basement. Sat. night, he came into bed with me and then Sunday it was right back to the basement again. I did not do anything to make him not trust me. I would never cheat on him, I did not leave him...it is stupid stuff..He was going to law school, I could not find a full time job and so he blamed me for the fact that he had to drop out. Alcoholics blame. As for the forgiveness, I will have to work on it daily. I agree. I blame myself for everything but I feel so responsible, for our finances, for making sure our house is clean, for everything. He goes to work, comes home, watches the kids and drinks...he could care less about me. I wish I knew what I did that was so awful. He has trust issues that stem from his childhood, I cannot fix that, he has to. I can toss the scorecard but I am afraid that he forgets NOR forgives anything..so I am tarnished..there is no fixing this marriage...I agree with you..I just do not want to admit it. I told him he has to forgive the past and move on..
first off, I put myself thru law school so wth is up with that? What diff does it make whether YOU worked full time to put him thru? Why'd that become YOUR responsibility? tell him to go back if he wants it so bad; there are night programs....
Next, I'm STILL Not clear on the trust issue. HE says HE cannot trust YOU? When he says he doesn't know if he can trust you, is he insane? Or is he referring to something specific? Come on. What's he talking about? While it may be idiotic small stuff, at least we could help you but if he is totally making stuff up, then he's nuts.
What is it? j-
PS WHat is it you need to forgive him for? Did he have an A or what? I keep hearing about trust on both sides but what is it you are referring to? Changing moods and going back and forth are not really trust issues so much as consistency to me. Seems to reflect confusion or passive aggressive behaviors or both...not sure "trust" is a word I'd used here. You tell us though...what's up?
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