Separated, new baby, but still hopeful

[P17]

p17, Thanks for the encouragement...but I should only care about 50% actions, right?

That's right. And nothing of what they say.

Yesterday I only saw him about 90 minutes out of 450 minutes so was NC 80% time. On Monday night, we ate dinner together and spent 45 minutes/180 minutes, so NC was 75%.
(Compare this to 40-50% in past visits)

So you are still further in NC than previously!

As for your sitch, a) her affair is relatively new still and b)she has noticed your weight loss and dance moves. Just start to be consistent with some kind of strategy that you are choosing, which sounds like GAL + NC, right?

I have GAL'ed. It's not going so well now. But when I had / have NC it will go a lot better.

Need to get back to the gym. Have now lost 35 pounds in weight, grown a beard (we had a conversation about tonight ... mine normally goes a little ginger towards the end and I want to look like Dr Cox from Scurbs as he us my idol ... but mine won't be as grey ... the usual trivial conversations people have :)), am now singing AND dancing (I never did that before) and I think she thinks I have another woman (although this may play into her 'he has another woman so I don't need to feel guilty about it anymore' complex).