I posted in the newcomers but needed advice

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I agree. 100% agree. I need to forgive him. Everytime I hopen my heart to him again he does something like go back in the basement. Sat. night, he came into bed with me and then Sunday it was right back to the basement again.

Solution to that - don't let him back in the bed unless he plans to STAY there. Moving back and forth is a little childish.

I did not do anything to make him not trust me. I would never cheat on him, I did not leave him...

Maybe that was the problem. He knew you would always be there and took that for granted.

He goes to work, comes home, watches the kids and drinks

Is that not a very bad idea - drink and kids do not mix. What lesson is it teaching them?

he could care less about me.

Then why does he still stay there and feel so much guilt for what he has done to you?

I wish I knew what I did that was so awful.

This isn't about you, it's about him. You didn't do anything that was so awful. He is just trying to punish you for the pain he feels. He does that by making you feel the same way he is.

there is no fixing this marriage

While you are both still alive, there is always hope.