Well, don't you think she knows the timing sucks regarding her pay cut? "Great timing" sounds negative and almost like a blame. How could you have answered in a detached but positive way?
Gee W, sorry to hear that, I guess the economy is really hard on everybody right now.
And, had you answered in a more positive fashion it could have been the perfect segway to open up the money/budget talk again.
EX: Gee W, that is too bad. It's always difficult to take a pay cut but I guess the silver lining is it will motivate us to create a workable budget for the short term that we both are comfortable with.
I am sure she does know. But, what do you think she was looking for when she texted me? What am I going to do for her to make it any better? She can't continue to shun me and say I need help etc, and then expect me to be there only when she needs me. I am a package deal. You can't just have the parts you like when you want them.
My WAW has no concept of budgeting and her choice to move out is costing us money and I am done thinking about it. I will continue to be the responsible one and keep paying our household bills and concerned about the future, while she will only worry about here and now. I am done talking about money and budgets.
