Is this the end of my marriage?

[P17]

I'm sorry to hear about your mum. You really are going through so much right now.

Yeah, they say disasters come in threes ... waiting for number three. At least I know I will handle it. If I can handle this sh*t then I can handle ANYTHING. I was going to say BRING IT ON but that's just tempting fate

As for NC, you can set a date and go for it then. Remember how much better you felt after 10 days of NC before. Also remember what that one poster said--you don't even have to give her a letter at first! (although I think the letter is required for a proper dark Plan B, right?) But you could start with NC and then give her the letter at some point. You could also just leave her alone with your daughter on Monday like you did the other day (while you built a bookshelf, etc.)

I did that today. In fact I was upstairs putting D's clothes away listening to 'The Blues Brothers Soundtrack' (that is an excellent album) and wiggling my a$$ away when she appeared behind me with a laugh saying she had been shouting on me from downstairs and to give me a few things. I spent the next hour and a bit away from them putting clothes away, cleaning etc. before coming downstairs at 6pm to watch a double bill of Scrubs.

W sat on the couch and the only space was next to her. So I sat there and she didn't move. I actually moved a little to get further away from her. She did the same when she was in the kitchen - I had to get into the cupboard above her head and she again just stood there - no movement. Only a few weeks ago she would have moved out of the way completely. She just looked so relaxed.

I'm not reading anything into it. Just observing the change and how much more relaxed she must therefore feel. I think the GOOD = BAD works here. She was obviously in a great mood so that is bad for me and the end of the A.

My actual date for NC is a week tomorrow (26 November). Still not sure about the letter and whether to use it or whether just to ignore any future contact. I still feel very angry about her non-interest in my mum.