Is this the end of my marriage?

[newmama]

I'm sorry to hear about your mum. You really are going through so much right now.

As for NC, you can set a date and go for it then. Remember how much better you felt after 10 days of NC before. Also remember what that one poster said--you don't even have to give her a letter at first! (although I think the letter is required for a proper dark Plan B, right?) But you could start with NC and then give her the letter at some point. You could also just leave her alone with your daughter on Monday like you did the other day (while you built a bookshelf, etc.)