I agree with your friend Trusting.. and I am so very very sorry!!! I know those knife pains, the hurt of the heart - I am sorry. Wish we could sit down and have a margarita, or a beer or even just a soda together.. and just sit.. no words sometimes are best.
and in regards to your messed up X and his relationship with your kids.. take solice in this. My C has reminded me time adn time again that the "SAFE" place, consistancy all of it - that is us adn that is what we are showing our kids. INNER strength.. adn they do see it!! I KNOW they do.. How WE deal adn teach them and move forward does impact them. You may not hear it today - but some day you will be told (either by word or deed).
Hey - how about I come there and kick him in the prvates?? that would be so awesome~~~~
M-20 years/BOMB 12/24/06 Moved out 3/12/07 D final 7/30/2008 finding myself again