Thanks coach. That's what I needed to hear. There is no affair in our sitch. She thinks her life will be easier and she will be happier without me.
It might be easier for her as she lives with her mum. We were both there while we were building. It's been about 3 years. She will have it easy cause her mum picks him up from school 2 days a week, w picks him up once and I pick him up twice. Her mums gets his dinner ready when our son us with her. If she wasn't living there I think she would realise exactly how hard it would be. She wouldn't have any plans of moving out now.
W's godfather spoke to me and told me to be patient and calm. He said he knows alot of people where they thought is was all over, and they got back together. That gave me hope as well. I told him I love her and I don't want to loose her, and he said he knows, but he also knows how stubborn she is.
I don't know how to give the space while still doing as much as possible with my son, but at the same time, I want her to see how hard it will be and the effect it will have on our son.
When we talk, it is very cival, she seems content and happy that she believes it is over. I am not going to discuss divorce or what happens with our son and properties. I plan on delaying that as long as possible. I'll be telling her that I'm not ready to discuss it if she brings it up.
