I assume that taking kerosene and matches, and burning the house down, would cause her to act as well. It would "work."
Doesn't make it right.
Just playing devil's advocate, and trying to point out it's not as simple as you portray it. I personally am only okay with the "dating others" thing if both spouses agree to it (otherwise I am no better than she is), but I do believe in "adding mystique" and not exactly filling in all of the blanks for them, either.
Puppy
Bro, you are 100% correct. Yes there are many ways to accomplish this. But what prompts people to action, what prompts people to change, to move to change faster than anything else?
Crisis.
Right/wrong, left/right, up/down, 256 thousand shades of grey - all as important as the next.
It's never simple.
Taking action, doing something different than what you've done to attain different results will be difficult. You have to in effect stop being the old you to allow yourself to grow into a new you.
Change is difficult, no doubt about it.
Self-respect is difficult for those LBS's that have been walked over, treated like a doormat, hurt horribly with much cruelty but it is still a goal. When you change, allow yourself to do & be something different from what you are, you realize growth that you never imagined possible, you learn about yourself, you allow yourself to set rules for your life & it's well being, you assign greater value to your life than you previously did - it's all a difficult process but it's still a requirement.
