I assume that taking kerosene and matches, and burning the house down, would cause her to act as well. It would "work."
Doesn't make it right.
Just playing devil's advocate, and trying to point out it's not as simple as you portray it. I personally am only okay with the "dating others" thing if both spouses agree to it (otherwise I am no better than she is), but I do believe in "adding mystique" and not exactly filling in all of the blanks for them, either.
