Remember that what we think was a good life brings on pressures of its own that eventually surface. For you wife it very well might mean 30+ years of trying to please every one else except herself...and then she finally snapped. It wouldn't matter who her spouse was. It would have happened! She finally said "I want some for me"....just in that taking a little bit of "me" over all those years it has come gushing out in one onslaught of "medom". You are just a casualty...I think often in MLC cases the LBS feels that they are the cause of the problem, but upon careful observation we realize that the problem is bigger than us. Much like affairs for an MLC....they aren't the cause, just a symptom.
Our youths were similar Ayk....realize at some point you made a choice between being loving or continuing down the path you were taught. The choice to continue the pain of your childhood was the easy path, the choice you made to be loving is harder but more fulfilling in the end.
It seems Bubbles is free tonight Jack....I will send her your way riding a pony!
