I keep thinking about what Pearl said awhile ago: "how would you envision your life without H?" And I'd move back to CA across next few months, get settled there w my job (company just opened office there), set up w resources in terms of counselor and friends and all, support-system. But it is darn hard to plan a full-on move cross country still in limbo-land. I wonder sometimes if I do it, or if I don't and force conversation in advance, if that will change anything w H?
I have yet to see a WAS lead the relationship out of limboland. Guess who get's the honor?
I would bring this discussion up. "I am in the process of making some decisions and need to decide if I am going to stay married or not. I would like to meet with you for a few minutes to discuss my plans. Starbucks on Main St this Sat 10:00 am work for you?"
Now you are in control of yourself. You can decide what is best for you. You are not moving on but moving forward. Your husband has a choice in how much he discusses, engages and contributes to the process.
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M22,H45,W45 S21/18D12 Retain faith that you will prevail in the end, regardless of the difficulties and at the same time confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be.
