Your next communication should be from your divorce attorney. [snip] A letter tells her that she can still string you along.
Amen!
If your state allows this then proceed directly to the big D, do not pass separation, do not waste $200. Demonstrate your decisiveness. Separation is still wishy washy and tells her she can continue to string you along. Actions speak louder than words Future. Her actions speak of someone keeping you in their back pocket as Plan "Z". I.e. Their last resort if plans "A" through "Y" don't pan out. (And yes, in case you were wondering, all puns intended with the A.
As for the letter, print it out and let it accompany the D papers. The only thing I would remove are the following sentences:
Quote:
My experience so far has been that people are respectful of the fact that my marriage not yet over, especially given my three young kids, and they don't want to intrude on that, nor risk their own feelings until the situation is resolved. Obviously there are some people in the world who have no problem getting involved with a married person still living with their spouse and three little kids, but I wouldn't be interested in anyone like that.
She has actively demonstrated that she doesn't give two hoots about you and your "feelings." Those sentences ooze of "Pity me, I can't find anyone until we're done."
Once you've demonstrated your backbone and decisiveness put on your spewproof coat because the shirts going to hit the fan. She'll be screaming blue-murder. Stand firm. You're creating a crisis for her and upsetting the apple-cart on its way to the pie shop. And, if she isn't too enmeshed in her fantasy may just give her the jolt to try R. If that happens, handle with caution.
M:11 | T:12 | Status: Married 4C's of WAS communication: Cool, Calm, Collected and CONFIDENT
