Ya I know what you are saying about "more to a wife"
In the last two years I have gone from (now don't laugh) actually being scared that she and the OM might try to get rid of me. To now my W does seem to be a partner and helper in our relationship. Best friend will take awhile and I am sure lover even longer. When I said I was going on cruse control what I meant was with the R stuff. Any support W needs she has it from me. I have to admit though I still kind of try to manipulate (for lack of a better word) or maybe emphasize my worth sometimes... Yesterday it rained. I had already went out and bought new windshield wipers for wife’s car but I waited until after she went out once in the rain before I installed them so she could see the improvement. Like most things when everything looks good and seems to be taken care of nobody notices... things are taken for granted an example would be cutting the lawn. When it is cut and taken care of ya it’s noticed but not mentioned. But let it go for a few weeks and I can guarantee you it will be noticed and something said. I guess I sound like the housewife that feels taken for granted for doing all of the house work and her husband does not appreciate it. Anyway I will do my best to be the best husband during the stressful holiday season.
As Cyndi Lauper puts it
If you're (she’s) lost you (she) can look--and you (she) will find me time after time if you (she) fall(s) I will catch you (her)--I'll be waiting time after time
And if I claim to be a wise man, well It surely means that I don't know
