Here's a little blues number I wrote for you goes something like this:
Woke up this morning, bo bom bu bump feelin a little serene bo bom bu bump Cant' believe all the places bo bom bu bump my heart has been bo bom bu bump
Woke up this morning, bo bom bu bump wondered who'd I become bo bom bu bump I tell you right now people bo bom bu bump I'm a son of a gun bo bom bu bump
You get to finish the tale.
Cheers
M22,H45,W45 S21/18D12 Retain faith that you will prevail in the end, regardless of the difficulties and at the same time confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be.
Thank you for that...Your words are very kind and just what I needed today.
I just feel torn today -
A part of me has no respect for him whatsoever, regadless of how I have been treated, my boys are suffering as well and as a man how can he not see that?
The complete 180 he has done just blows my mind when I stop to really think about it.
May All Who Seek To Take My Life Be Put To Shame And Confusion; May All Who Desire My Ruin Be Turned Back In Disgrace. ~Psalm 40:14~
It is not a lack of self-respect that causes you to take a stand for your M. It is the fact that you value the meaning of marriage and you believe in committment. We all have the right to draw boundaries and point out disrespectful behavior and I believe that you have done this with your H. You have SELF RESPECT. At this point he does not appear to, nor does he respect the meaning of marriage. The problem of respect lies with him, not you.
The feeling of being disrespected is overwhelming. It can bring you to the groung in pain. BUT...ultimately our S are disrespecting God more than they are disrespecting us.
WALK YOUR PATH with pride and let him walk his. Once you ask God will let you know what you are supposed to do and I know you won't question that
It is not a lack of self-respect that causes you to take a stand for your M. It is the fact that you value the meaning of marriage and you believe in committment. We all have the right to draw boundaries and point out disrespectful behavior and I believe that you have done this with your H. You have SELF RESPECT. At this point he does not appear to, nor does he respect the meaning of marriage. The problem of respect lies with him, not you.
The feeling of being disrespected is overwhelming. It can bring you to the groung in pain. BUT...ultimately our S are disrespecting God more than they are disrespecting us.
WALK YOUR PATH with pride and let him walk his. Once you ask God will let you know what you are supposed to do and I know you won't question that
Kara... what a good perspective! that helps me today so much as well!
It is not a lack of self-respect that causes you to take a stand for your M. It is the fact that you value the meaning of marriage and you believe in committment. We all have the right to draw boundaries and point out disrespectful behavior and I believe that you have done this with your H. You have SELF RESPECT. At this point he does not appear to, nor does he respect the meaning of marriage. The problem of respect lies with him, not you.
The feeling of being disrespected is overwhelming. It can bring you to the groung in pain. BUT...ultimately our S are disrespecting God more than they are disrespecting us.
WALK YOUR PATH with pride and let him walk his. Once you ask God will let you know what you are supposed to do and I know you won't question that
Kara... what a good perspective! that helps me today so much as well!
Here's a little blues number I wrote for you goes something like this:
Woke up this morning, bo bom bu bump feelin a little serene bo bom bu bump Cant' believe all the places bo bom bu bump my heart has been bo bom bu bump
Woke up this morning, bo bom bu bump wondered who'd I become bo bom bu bump I tell you right now people bo bom bu bump I'm a son of a gun bo bom bu bump
You get to finish the tale.
Cheers
Just stick to the drums, okay. ONLY JOKING!!! That was sweet.
Gardener
"My soul, be satisfied with flowers, With fruit, with weeds even; but gather them In the one garden you may call your own." Cyrano deBergerac
"My actions are my only true belongings. I cannot escape the consequences of my actions. My actions are the ground upon which I stand." Thich Nhat Hanh
(((Serenity))) Just hold this little gem of a quote from Kara in your mind. She pointed out exactly what you needed to hear, but those few words above seriously spell it all out for you.
Your path is the high road, the one you have taken thus far and will continue to take because it is what you believe. You aren't doing this for your H, you are doing it for yourself, because once all is said and done, M saved or M ended, you will know that you did everything you could do for yourself and your kids. The Serenity I know wouldn't stand for less; no, she wouldn't!!!
We all have days when we get a bit weary and this is your day to let it out. But press on, sweet Serenity, because staying in this place where you are today IS NOT what you want for yourself. But you already know that, don't ya?
You always remind all of us on this board that we are to listen to the signs and that people come our way for a reason. We are all here to get you through this day, so just let us know what you need. I, for one, will be praying for you.
bim
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BIM M 39 / H 40 / S 9 / S 6 / T 20 / M 11
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