Wait, hold on a minute. Just my opinion, but I don't think you should move out of DBing, just out of LRT. You still have work to do, especially if OW is living with H. There are boundaries that still need to be kept. Besides that, DB principles are practical for all type of R's not just crisis ones like ours (Michele talks about have she uses it in her great marriage to handle the everyday arguments too). You know, if somethings not working, you try something different, etc etc. Keep this DBing base, but now add to it the other things you are learning/reading about to continue to grow your R.
But going back to OW, that is a great way to look at it. The tables are reversing! And most likely, she is going to start grasping to hang on as she sees him slipping from her and no guy likes those clingy desperate girls. Obviously right now as you are in the beginning stages of growing your R, you don't want to set any ultimatums, but be prepared for that momment in the near future when you have to set that boundary and basically say it's me and our family or her. Or better yet, as he grows closer to you, hopefully he'll do that before you have to ask. Keep fighting!
Me 27; H 28; S 2 Togeth 9; M 4 Sep 11/14/08 EA OW1 Sep 08 EA OW2 Mar 09 EA OW3 Jun 10
