Separated, new baby, but still hopeful

[MrBond]

It comes down to what you want. Do you want your M to be saved? If so, then you can't put a deadline on it. If you do, you will only dissapoint yourself and grow resentful at his not changing according to YOUR timeline.

He's got his own process. First thing I would do though is not be around him so much and allow the baby to see him on YOUR terms. Let's face it. He walked out on both of you. Right now he's got his cake and eating it too. He's got nothing to lose.

You have to give him a reason to miss something. You can't do that while being a doormat. Right now he's calling the shots with the paperwork and everything. You've got to find a way to put yourself in a position of power.

"the best way to get over someone is to meet someone else"

This concerns me. If you REALLY believe this you are setting yourself up for total failure each time. You don't need anyone to get over another R. If you did, you're going to end up with a long string of failed R because all you're doing is transferring your co-dependency from one person to another. Learn to stand on your own two feet for now. Your baby will appreciate it in the long run.