strong & patient (most days)

[Reincarnated]

I think that if there is a diagnosis from a PhD, they have to move faster. I am home sick today...I'll email my Resource teacher friend and see if she has any suggestions.

This is the first time the principal heard of autism?! I can't be reading that right....

[kat727]

You know I could see your H enrolling them and not even mentioning that there are learning issues. I think he would have to say something for S16 but your D9 is more social and works her hiney off. I bet he thought he could hide it.

Maybe you need to pull that principal in as a witness as how your H lays the cards on the table. And why would you wait a year to pull her out? You had originally said by the time of the D and now you would wait a whole year?

kat

[karen43]

Yes, she didn't know. She seemed to suggest they didn't have the paperwork. But I know X did drop off both reports at the school; I think I was with him at the time. I emailed him to double check, but there was no effort for him to hide her AS or LD's. He talked to the ESE Coordinator for that school, etc. I had a meeting with the ESE staff, and they also requested to receive all medical records and everything for her at that time.

She did say they were sending an evaluation form home with D9 today, so I'm hoping that might be the evaluation by the Ph.d. that they do.

I would never pull the principal in as a witness. She's such a dork. She was suggesting b/c D9 is so enthusiastic about learning (really everything) that she might not need ESE. As if an enthusiastic personality would make up for ESE! She was telling me that in the 80's when she was working the kids that needed ESE all got it, but it's not like that anymore b/c of federal regulations.

I would appreciate it if before she had called me she at least knew the bare bones info re: D9....but she didn't.

I know I do feel that the D hearing, may be the last chance for me to get some resolution about D9's school sitch. I have complete confidence in her 2 teachers this year, they give her extra help, give her extra time, change her grades, I think they are almost as good as her receiving actual ESE. The kids in her class help her out all the time too. But I can't count on her to have wonderful teachers every single year, and she really does need ESE, so I was putting the time limit on it of 12 months. The principal says they take 9 to 18 months, so giving them one year should be doable.

[bluestar]

Karen, the principal is wrong. You have made a referral for evaluation in writing. The school is responsible to request consent from you for the evaluation "promptly". 9-18 months is not promptly. Once you sign consent for evaluation, they have 60 days to evaluate. Go in and ask to sign consent.

Also, you might want to talk to the teacher about the way she is grading your D. Her grades need to reflect her ability and if she is changing them based on her attitude, they do not. Her need for evaluation as far as the school is concerned is based on her progress which is measured by her grades.

You could also call the District Special Education Director. Let them know that you've made a referral and would like to sign consent. Never hurts to go over the school if they're not cooperating.

From experience, I can tell you that if they don't do the evaluation this year. You'll be starting all over next year and you'll risk another year going by with no services. You have to be really pushy. School districts don't like to do it.

[mishka422]

bluestar is absolutely right. They have 60 days from a written request to evaluate. If they are not able to complete evaluation within that time they must get your consent to extend the time. This is totally unacceptable!

[karen43]

To top it all of X sent an email last night (as soon as the kids were in bed). It was a spewfest. He doesn't agree D9 needs ESE says her language arts teacher told him she should stay in the regular classroom and just needs help with writing (her reading is good but she also has low grades in spelling too). I'm sabotaging her with activities and by cancelling her therapies (which I can no longer afford).

I emailed back: I agree with you she should stay in the regular classroom, but they pull out ESE students for help in certain subjects: which in D9's case would be writing, spelling, and maybe math. They also have to be ESE before they receive Speech and OT through the schools. (Ignored his other spew).

He's such a nasty dumb-a**. I just can't imagine dealing with his crap for the next 9 years!!!

[kat727]

If it makes you feel better, remember she turns 10 this week so really only 8 more years of his crud. Ok, like that would make you feel better! lol

kat

[mishka422]

Good grief! That man is a complete a$$! Does he want his D to fail? Why shouldn't she have every bit of assistance offered by the state? Why should she have to struggle along without assistance just because he doesn't want it? What is best for her? Good heavens! I'm spitting nails over here!!!!

[NoCodeBlues]

It's obvious he has only his own self-interests at heart -- that's why he's upset, for himself, not the kids.

Karen, you've done well not letting his spew get to you. Continue to stay calm and stand your ground. You are absolutely in the right here.

Hugs and blessings.

[dday101798]

Well, it's apparently obvious, the attack mission of the month from planet X is to try and drive us nuts by intervening in every aspect of normal life for the kids. So far school for most, other than NCB's snuggle toy kidnapping X.

dday out [dodging nails projectiling from mishka ]