No, they/ WE are right....she is trying out some kind of different life right now but it is unlikely she will enjoy it long term. Like I think my WH never partied in his 20s so now he is making up for it with the OW. He never got the girl in HS (although he could have--confidence issue) so he is "getting the girl" now.

But whatever reason your WW is after this guy (father figure you said?) it is more of an ESCAPE I BET than what she really wants. Sorry if I confused you. After reading and reading about affairs, this is my theory.

me,34
exH,34
S,16 months
S:3/31/09-left for OW
started DBing 10/09
d final: sometime 10/10
current:
http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2022856&page=1
met in 2004