Comfort is definitely a good word. My H uses it every second day. He calls just to "talk". He doesn't admit it, but really has nothing to say when I answer, makes stuff up on the spot. I've realized its all about the "comfort". It didn't click in till I read your sentence about taking that away. Thanks! You didn't mean to help, but you did!
M: 31 H: 29 Married: 6 yrs Children : 7yr old, 5yr old, 2yr old
Separated: Sept. '09 Moved Back In for wrong reasons: Nov. 30, 09 Recomitted to our Marriage: Jan. 25, 10 Threatening to leave again: July,14
