Believe me Rob - all the sexual stuff is confusing to me too. She may just be using that night as her excuse to get out of a marriage that she has been very unhappy in for "four years". Legally, it was rape. You don't need insertion of penis for rape. But the fact that we had sex since, and almost a couple of other times and that she sleeps naked and showers in front of me, sure makes me wonder just how scared she is.
Am I certain there is no OM? Not 100%. But my gut still doesn't say so. If there is, that would actually make all this easier to understand and after lying about it would be a deal breaker. Until I have proof otherwise, nothing I can do.
