That's a great point Mish! But instead, they go with what feels "right". Or at least makes them feel better, temporarily.
$h!tty coping mechanisms. Which I think can be related to unusual stresses early in life, cuz if they never learned to deal with them then, they won't be able to deal with stresses now until they learn how to cope better.
IMHO, the problem with D is that the kids see a lack of commitment. They learn that it's acceptable to leave when things are tough, that families don't actually stick together through the tough times. So, their idea of commitment is a bit dodgy and they believe it's okay to leave too. So, when the stress gets too high, they do. KWIM?
Michelle - Proud DR Rockette S: 28JUL07, D'd: 29OCT09 http://tinyurl.com/27j9qo2
