Teddy & Gabbysmom, I feel the same way. I don't miss the nagging and I enjoy doing my own thing but I have to be careful not to compare myself to what others have.
"My actions are my only true belongings. I cannot escape the consequences of my actions. My actions are the ground upon which I stand." Thich Nhat Hanh
I love the freedom and not getting criticized and stuff too. I also think I'm more like myself; I think I changed as a result of my M, and want to try to avoid that in future. I guess both single/married have their pros/cons.
You've had two years of singleness under your belt, much longer than most.
Do you hate being single or miss having a partner.
Do you isolate or venture out.
Are you carrying a boatload of misery and hurt.
How are you, have you processed the divorce.
What do you expect in a partner, date, friend. How do they differ.
Me.. I'm an barely emerging hermit, processing the divorce, am too emotionally fragile for a relationship, would rather have friends and I'm working through a boatload of hurt. Oh yes.. and I've started trying things that I've wanted to do since I was a teenager.. like auditioning for shows.
The final thought.. is how much do you like yourself?
I'm 49 and a single dad. I have 2 active kids half my time so that keeps me busy. The other half of my time I enjoy the quiet time and try to stay in shape. I had a girlfriend for about 9 months, but I figured that she was not for me. I am on match.com and get some occasional dates. I am in no hurry to get in a long term relationship and I do know that the right one will eventually come along.
Thanks for all of the kind words! This is a great forum!
Sorry about the self-pity mood I was in that night. Life is good. Am I processing the divorce. Yes I am. I am pretty much past the hurt and anger. Just disappointed how the other person conducted themself and destroyed a pretty good marriage.
Except for location, life is good. And yes, Kerry, I do date a little, but not much. Don't really want a relationship at this point.
You guys are GREAT!
Me: 47 Pet: Kind labrador, 12 years old. Best Friend anybody could have.
Divorce final 12/07/07 No Kids
It is no longer about the divorce or about her. It's all about how I live my life now.
Hi Teddy, Im 27 and single, I dont like sleeping alone, but I do like the no critism, and things being just how I like them! I guess the you win some and lose some in any situation. But its tough to see everyone around you starting families!
I guess I gave the wrong finger to the wrong man...
Teddy, I find there are good days and bad days. I think of it like climate and weather. The climate is warm & balmy, the weather can be rainy & miserable. But.....the climate always returns.
Also....price and value. I'm paying a very high price, but I'm getting a great value.
I am not being emotionally or verbally abused in a relationship any longer. I do not regret ending my marriage to that man.
I do miss being held. I do miss having someone to watch a movie with on a cold night, & snuggle. I will have these things again. Once I have grown to the point that I have good healthy boundaries and am able to be assertive and have a healthy relationship with a man.
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M 19 years, MC for 8 months, DB'd for 8 months 4 kids; 18, 15, 14, & 10 I was never meant to be a doormat. It took me years of therapy to become assertive enough to stop his abuse.
