I see you titled your thread that you wanted a WAW point of view. Sorry, but you aren't likely to be getting any. The WAWs that were on this forum have mostly left. And I doubt any new ones will ever post here.
It's not even necessary! As you can see, everyone already knows what we think and it's all bad.
We only try to justify ourselves. Our version of things isn't true. It's mostly important to never listen to anything we say. On occasion you can even heap verbal abuse on WAWs right here without impunity. You might find that very cathartic. I don't know though, because I am in a fog and should never be taken seriously.
I only check in one thread now, trying to help convince a lovely person that she is NOT a terrible WAW but needs to get to a safe place.
Good luck with your situation though. You will make friends here and get support during this very difficult time.
Oh I forgot to mention this: We bought tickets for a Christmas event for the kids and we are both going to be taking the kids. So I will have 3-4 hours of being with the WAW soon. Any advice on this topic??? Not sure if she will back out, I have the Tickets.
Bomb 8/09. Brief piecing 12/10. D-2/12 Two incredible kids D9,S6 Leading new life! “Success is not to be pursued; it is to be attracted by the person we become."
Ok, you've been together 14 years and married 8? In ALL that time you never got into a heated fight right before having to go somewhere together and just 'play nice' for the night?
Me 35/XW 33 S13 & S12 M: 10/17/98 OM & S: 07/08 D final 06/09/09 12/03/09 - 06/13/10 "Piercing" 06/13/10: Engaged to Re-marry 10/17/10 06/25/10: Expecting baby #3 2/14/11
Right dday, I am going to show her I am full of life and have a great time w/ the kids. I won't let her bring me down while I'm enjoying time with the kids. I know the answers but sometime I need some clues. It might even annoy her for her to see me having a good time. Or maybe spark some curious thought in her mind. Tick Tock
Bomb 8/09. Brief piecing 12/10. D-2/12 Two incredible kids D9,S6 Leading new life! “Success is not to be pursued; it is to be attracted by the person we become."
Good point. Play nice. It is my ultimate goal to reconcile.
Bomb 8/09. Brief piecing 12/10. D-2/12 Two incredible kids D9,S6 Leading new life! “Success is not to be pursued; it is to be attracted by the person we become."
I am confused now. I know what I want(I think). It's hard knowing our kids are going through this too. I can comprehend the thought of not reconciling at this point. I would like to but I guess in time the R will tell me which direction I should go. It's funny how we learn to improve yourselves after our spouse leaves. We become(in a Sense) what they have been looking for all this time but now they are searching elsewhere. They will only find the same situation with the next guy. They will try agian to mold them and be disappointed. I think ythat's why people really need to work on themselves and the R.
Bomb 8/09. Brief piecing 12/10. D-2/12 Two incredible kids D9,S6 Leading new life! “Success is not to be pursued; it is to be attracted by the person we become."
Thanks DDAy. point well taken. See I told you I have trouble listening to my own thoughts.
Bomb 8/09. Brief piecing 12/10. D-2/12 Two incredible kids D9,S6 Leading new life! “Success is not to be pursued; it is to be attracted by the person we become."
