Donna--finding herself #37

[kat727]

Donna, he has never once thought of the 20+ years and when he does eventually get around to it he will be a bit of a mess too. But this isn't about him, it is about you. Don't get me wrong there are moments I get upset that he threw this all away but do I really want the POS he has become? Heck no!!

You get a do over a chance to change, a chance to do things you maybe only dreamed about but he didn't like. Look towards the possibilities and what steps you need to take to make them happen. It is a slow process and I think that is so we get it right. No need to rush. Afterall this is our lives we are talking about.

Sometimes I think you see your ex as a sort of security object but hon, he isn't that anymore. He shook you to the core. Put him away. You will deal with the memories when they aren't so painful.

hugs, kat