Living, Loving, & Learning one day at a time

[Treese]

UPDATE....

Got a text from H yesterday afternoon....this is what it said....
"Hi,Did buddy mention I was gonna hang out with him for a bit tonite? Was gonna get him 3ish, that cool?"

First I was shocked...after 6 weeks he now wants to see him.

So, I responded because it was already 2...This is what I said, "No, he didn't mention it and I would appreciate if you would tell me also in case he forgets. I have to go out for a bit, but that is fine."

I also did ask if he could help with pickups after basketball practices sometimes...he asked when they were...I had just told him when....but you know their minds...they are very forgetful...truly blows my mind...

He did show up...and on time...shock...i went to dinner with friends and he texted me when he was dropping son off at 8...

Son immediately called me when he got in the house because I wasn't there...I think it scares him sometimes when I'm not home when he gets back but I told him what I was doing..

When I got home I asked him if he had fun and he said Yeah, we went to a 2 1/2 hour movie....I said "was it good"..and he said yeah....so I dropped it...I don't ask questions because I don't want to put son in the middle of anything...It amazes me that he hasn't seen his son for 6 weeks and he takes him to a movie so he doesnt have to socialize with him...I would be asking him how he was and what's new...plus our son has truly grown over the past few weeks...I am thankful however that he did take him for a little while...

so, yesterday he was a dad...today he's probably back to being in MLC and into himself and OW...I suppose it will be 6 more weeks until he sees him..

So, anyone out there who has a spouse that returned after MLC and you asked how they felt during the holidays without their family...for instance...how did they feel during Thanksgiving at a table of a new OW and her family? Just curious...do they think of old times or not?