Returning from the land of excuses...

[LolaL]

Well, last night was a very strange night.

As I am an over active thinker, it has been very hard for me to not read anything into any of this. Practice makes perfect I guess, so although I have thought of a few things, I have pushed them away and just taken it for what it was.

I sent stbx a text last night explaining that the D will most likely be finalized in March, as the TX laws require a 60 day waiting period and I will need to fly back for the final hearing. I need to purchase the plane ticked in February, and so hence I will be there in March.

Apparently this explanation confused him (he said he is a man, and they are simple so don't understand complicated explanations...something he used to say when we were joking around). So I explained again, and he understood, although I didn't say anything different. I asked him about the issues he was having at work, turns out he is not being accused of theft but bribery, which is a common accusation from people who lose. Some guy called CPS on his stbx wife, they were in the middle of a heated custody battle, both are wealthy. Blah blah blah. We chatted about how things were going here, but not much. I suggested he look more south for work as business seems to be booming that way.

So here is the thing, with him signing and filing the waiver, his obligation to this divorce is finished. He doesn't have to show up for the final hearing, doesn't have to sign any paperwork, I am not even obligated to send him anything. He asked me when the final hearing would be, and I told him that in El Paso, once or twice a month the district courts hold an open court morning on Fridays for uncontested divorce hearings, so I would look it up and just pick one of those days.

Now, I had no intention of seeing stbx while I was in El Paso. My plan: shack up in a motel for the night, go to the hearing, and head up to Arizona for a weekend with some friends. I still plan to do this, because I have no idea when I will see my friends again, and their son is my godson.

Now, all of a sudden, stbx wants to be at the hearing. WTF? Why? He said don't I need to be there? I said no, since I am the one who filed, I am the one who has to finalize. He says don't I need to sign the paperwork? I said no, it just requires my signature. I told him not to worry, I was not going to screw him out of anything, he should know me better, blah blah blah. Well, he said he wanted to be there. I said okay, that is fine, I will let you know when I am coming in.

Huh????? HUH????? What???? WHAAAAAAAAAATTTTT? (In the voice of the mother from A Christmas Story who has just been told that her son taught his friend the word f*ck...)

This means I have to see him. IS HE TRYING TO TORTURE ME? I mean, I suppose I could just go and not tell him, but unfortunately since I said I would, well, I am who I am. I will tell him. But still. I am thinking why?

As Michelle says **head desk**...