First I would like to thank everyone for there advice. This is a great place learn and get ideas. My W and I seperated back in August, and at the time we decided that I would move out and W and stepdaughter (17) would stay in house. It was the easiest thing to do financially and for my stepdaughters sake. I woke up this morning and was laying in bed thinking and crying that realizing that I should not of been the one to move out. My W is the one that is unhappy with herself and the one that wants to be alone an independant. So she should be the one to move out. I am not really sure when or how I am going to present that to her yet. After Thanksgiving probably. I am going to tell her just that. You are welcome to stay or find an apartment. It will probably be a little struggle for me financially, but I will figure it out. I moved out thinking about my W needs and not my own. Now I am going to really focus on me. Any advice on the best way to present it to her? Should I wait till after the holidays to tell her or just tell her now? Now I have a key to house and I can come and go as I please. I am afraid by doing this she may change the locks on house. Then I will never get in the house. What does everbody think?
Bomb 7/15/09 M46, W41 T 15YRS M 8YRS D20 D18 (stepdaughter) sep 8/16/09 papers filed 5/5/10 Divorce papers signed 8/18/10 Nov 18 officially divorced
I've been trying to get you to see this from the get-go! GOOD FOR YOU!!!
Do not announce this ahead of time. Just show up, pillow and personal effects in hand, and when she asks you WTF you think you're doing (and she will), say "I have decided that I prefer this house, and sleeping in my own bed. I've done nothing wrong, and I should have never left."
I've been trying to get you to see this from the get-go! GOOD FOR YOU!!!
Do not announce this ahead of time. Just show up, pillow and personal effects in hand, and when she asks you WTF you think you're doing (and she will), say "I have decided that I prefer this house, and sleeping in my own bed. I've done nothing wrong, and I should have never left."
Do not announce this ahead of time. Just show up, pillow and personal effects in hand, and when she asks you WTF you think you're doing (and she will), say "I have decided that I prefer this house, and sleeping in my own bed. I've done nothing wrong, and I should have never left."That's it.
YUP. Move back in when she is gone if at all possible.
"What is best for my kids is best for me" Amor Fati Link to quotes: https://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2879712
And I also think I would do it with her there, that way it does not look like you are sneaking back in, how about just show up, and then follow PDT's advice. Be strong, decisive and give her the option of moving.
and then get ready. But remember during the barage, you are doing the right thing.
