Divorced and want to reconcile...

[dday101798]

You need to start accepting the role of being the LBS now. Which means what you are doing is in a sense wallowing, beggind and pleading, which are no-no's and yes pushing your now WS away as it is unattractive. Remember that when you were the WAS?

You also committed in my opinion a cardinal sin: you quietly set yourself up with expectations, and now that those expectations are not coming to frutition, well, let the wallowing commence.

In a way, perhaps his statements and acting 'on the level' with you is a test. If so, I hope he grades on a curved scale.

Ron has a good point. He would not spend all this time with you unless he wanted to.

You have to remember tho, the male ego is very fragile when it comes to his spouse throwing him to the way-side. You say he needs space? True to an extent, but more so, he needs what I keep saying over and over to you, TIME. And again, during that time, as HE IS TELLING YOU, get your life together and on the straight and narrow, quit living in the past and make something of yourself (read as BE ATTRACTING), it's almost like he's begging you to make 180's for yourself and stop being a a-typical LBS.