WAW - Very confused and devastated - pt 11

[confusedinpa]

Thanks for chiming in PMA & CG

Problem is, big surprise, my WAW and I can't agree on priorities in deciding a custody agreement. She proposed that we switch back and forth evey 2 days. I don't think it's in the best interest to be going back and forth that frequently. I think it's important to give them some stability. That's how we wound up with a Sun, Mon, Tues with alternate Wed arrangement. At that point I took the Thurs, Fri, Sat piece thinking she might miss us on the weekends (I didn't know she was leaving me for someone else who dumped her about a month after she moved out, there have been other guys since). So I got played as a fool and gave her exactly what she wanted for her new life. I've still been doing that as the only times I could see my boys before were the weekend

Now I'm done being the sucker. I proposed to stay with the 3/4 deal but alternate Sat and I would take Sun, Mon, Tues. She didn't like it. That's where we got into a blow up.

I'm finishing packing and heading back to Pa today. My 7 year old asked about picking him up on Thurs. I said for sure so he was gonna tell his mom.

So how do I negotiate with someone who thinks she is calling the shots? Why does the mother automatically assume she can decide on how to handle the kids?I have rights too.

This is just so confusing.....