I am not an expert, and am pretty new to this, but I feel I have learned a hell of allot in 2 months. I though I would share some of it with you and see if it helps.
I went to IC today and it helped give me some perspective. I would definitely recommend it.
When my W dropped the bomb I did not understand why, looked for reasons, blamed situations, blamed her, felt resentment etc.
This week I started to really look inside and seeing what I had been doing. I realized that my actions to try and stop the bomb where exactly what had caused her to become a WAW.
I am still in serious pain, but I do now see what I did to get the R to where it is. It does help me to now this because it gives me a starting point on what I need to change for myself.
I think a starting point is realizing that you are not a victim and taking responsibility for your self.
M: 30 W: 32 Married: 9 years s: 2.8 Bomb dropped: 7-10-09 same house, bed, no physical contact My sitch: http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=1871805&page=1
