Is this the end of my marriage?

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My point? Bravo for going NC sooner than later...it is the least painful way for you to GAL while her affair burns out. It WILL end. Whether or not you will still want her at that time is uncertain!

Thanks newmama.

This is what I want to do. Get me to a better place where I can then deal with this situation - either the pain, moving on, the A, whatever - just to a place where I can make a decision without my emotions and fear wrestling it to the ground and changing it. I need space to be able to sort myself out basically.

At the moment things are getting on top of me a little as I have a number of other personal, business and financial issues that I'm trying to resolve. It is all a bit too much for me to handle just now. If I had NC then I would at least be able to remove the A / W problem from that list and concentrate on the others. Unfortunately the W problem is consuming most of my mental time.

Everybody who has spoken to me about them only has negative things to say (but then they wouldn't say positive things to me) about how unhappy he looks / is, her changing, how they are completely incompatible, drinking etc. All of them say it won't last. I just have a niggling feeling that my W is so desperately lonely that she will cling for all she is worth to this man. I think there may also be an element of proving everybody wrong too. So while it will most definitely end, I see that being a long haul. By that time I will at least know what I want to do about the M, her, the OM, D etc.

Again, if I had NC, I would be able to deal with me and then that.