Tired of the game

[AliSuddenly]

Hey Julia,
Well things change. I know yuo said you 'tried that before', but that was .. 2 years ago now? We all (maybe men especially!) need the benefit of hindsight, or time to get perspective on something and its often only after a few years goes by that you can look back and go ... ahhh... thats what that was all about!

I'm not saying he would have answers, or you should shout or yell if thats what you dont feel yuo need to do. Just that DBing is all about minimising THEIR guilt, considering and validating THEIR feelings, giving THEM space and not putting any pressure on THEM, etc etc.. in other words, its all about being considerate to them and making it smoother for them (as well as GALing for us, blah blah!)...

I just was suggesting you stop considering his feelings so much and his levels of comfort and think about yourself. So if you needed to have a conversation or pick uyp the phone or just be honest..I think you may as well now, thats all.

I am open and honest with my bf, becuase he allows me to, and it is such a relief. Your H sounds like he regrets what he has done, so I wondered if there was a little opening there to finally sit down and cut all the b*llshit and say what you want to say and be real.
Hugs to you, Al xxx