Piecing...

[AliSuddenly]

Once the trust has been broken to that extent, of course its going to be hard to feel secure again and not always have those doubts. My bf was 1/2 late in last night, my mind wondered a little where he was... I guess it pays to never get 100% complacent in any relationship.

After the way he has acted, it ought to be HIM that worries you will one day tire of him and decide to start a new R. He should be the insecure one. As I was after my EA/PA years ago. And I was right. This type of behaviour breeds oodles of resentment that left to fester, can perpetuate and you end up doing what they did to you, in a funny sort of way.

This time around, we talk it all through (as we did again last night). We are more open and honest and time really does lessen the blows, especially the memories.

As for forgiveness, yes he needs to say he's sorry and ACT sorry too. It isnt childish for you to be upset he doesnt tell you he loves you. Thats the most basic thing in a relationship. You could say to him, the fact he doesnt say it makes you assume he doesnt love you? Unless he can give you a reason why he doesnt say it? (guilt, fear, etc)
xxx