Coping with Bi-Polar WAW

[TrentC]

she still hadn't responded my boundary set on Saturday of cutting off contact with OM.

We already established why that was; there was no consequence to her actions, so she felt free to ignore you.

Asked if she was still in contact. She said that she was still talking to OM, but not seeing him.

Translation: she's seeing him, or plans to in the near future.

Mentioned that I was never going to believe her when she tells me that anyway (guess that's where the transparency demands come into play).

Yeah, pretty much. But good luck getting her to accept that at this point; you haven't got a leg to stand on and she knows it.

Even in her groggy state, she should have been able to give me her answer.

We tell people on here all of the time to not let wayward spouses push them into giving an answer or making a decision before they are ready; why should it be any different for them?

All you did is set up a situation where you were pretty much guaranteed to get the answer you didn't want to hear.

I'll talk to her in the morning and face the wrath. I don't expect to get the answer I want to hear.

Then why in the world did you ask? Oh, right, because you let your emotions get the better of you. Hope that works out for you.

I know that I've got her backed into a corner, and she'll come back fighting.

Yep, pretty much.

I know that I've handled this wrong in every way, and once again let my emotions take control of me.

If you know you are handling it wrong, why do you do it that way?