Thanks for the input. I have not confirmed EA, I thought there may have been one, but I think I was looking for reasons. she is seeing a Kinesiology councilor.
She was only working on her self, and I know for sure that she came to her decision to leave me on her own. He and his W do care about her as they are friends, and they are only supporting her own decisions.
The more I look at my sitch, the more I understand why my W wants to walk away. Reality is a tough pill to swallow. While she is not innocent, the majority has come from me.
I realize that I tried to guilt & manipulate her in to believing the problems we had were coming from her.
The pain I am now feeling is based more on my actions of late and in the past, and I am determent not to fall into victim mode. I will take reasonability this time.
I will do my best for my S, it will not help my sitch anyway if I am an emotional wreck, so I am really trying to snap out of it.
I am for the first time acknowledging the pain, I just need to find a way of moving past it, I hope to start to achieve that with IC session in a couple of hours.
Last edited by Inaspin; 11/18/0906:28 AM.
M: 30 W: 32 Married: 9 years s: 2.8 Bomb dropped: 7-10-09 same house, bed, no physical contact My sitch: http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=1871805&page=1
