That is too bad that they feel that way about their mom, but I suppose that its more realistic to say that its too bad that shes made such bad decisions to make her kids feel that way about her!
I think that it was probably pretty smart for you to cut off communication with the IL's for now at least. And email is a pretty non threatening way to talk to W for now.
When is your final hearing? Sounds like you are nice and detached, how are you doing?
I guess I gave the wrong finger to the wrong man...