Coping with Bi-Polar WAW

[CountingCrows]

No, I didn't insist on transparency. In fact, she changed her PIN for the "secret phone" that she has used all summer to keep in contact with him. I happened to catch the PIN change before she change pw on email account. I told her that I would be unable to be married to someone who chose a "friend" over her husband, but I didn't know how to follow up with what the consequences would be if she didn't accept my boundary. She never responded to that boundary, and still hasn't said anything about it. Obviously I needed to be clearer and insisted total transparency. How do I go back and add that part?