Our goal is to do a Collaborative Divorce... she represents me... he will be aware of that and he can hire his own or not... that's his choice.
She and I are on the same page as far as fair and equitable. He makes a great salary and is going to help me get on my feet and he doesn't want to change the kids life drastically.... so far it seems we can work together on most things.
Doesn't seem like there will be custody stuff. The kids are old enough that we will basically let them decide when they want to visit. His work schedule is very complex and fluid (he has no set schedule with lots of travel) traditional doesn't work for us. Plus he knows the kids rather be in our home for the most part.
There is no drama as far as that stuff goes yet. He said he knows how much it cost for us to live here and he is going to continue to pay that.... but instead he will just turn it over to me and lump sum it to me to pay for all the bills and take the responsibility.
The house is under value right now so that doens't help and may be a hindrance. He has even given permission for me to move back to FL with the kids.
Again, he has always been generous and that is where he massages the guilt and frankly we have moved around so much my career tanked in the mist of all thas ... so I am going back to school to change that...I just need his support to get thru that time.
I am very grateful that for right now he seems to financially not want to abandon us. He is being more than fair so far.
M:47 M:18 D16, S19 1st S 1/08-5/08 Reconciled/May 7, 2008 Left again Nov 9, 2009 I Filed: Nov 17, 2009 Final: April 14, 2010 EX walked away from kids too
