Hi, I don't really know your sitch (and multiple posts) well, but just dropping in to add some encouragement.

It's great that you have chosen to focus on God and yourself. Now, just BELIEVE. And I don't think you should over-obssess about losing your S. He's your S, period. You will want to minimize any fallout from the sitch of course.

Re your W, sorry if I'm not clear about this, but have you confirmed the validity of an EA/OM? It does make a difference in how you deal with some things.

For that reason, I'm not sure if you have set boundaries with W and if the questions you ask will encourage cake-eating. Continued "friendliness" is not amenable to detaching in any case IMO.

Me 42
W 39
Married: 11 Jan 1998, T: Since 1992
First Bomb: Sep 2007
Confirmed A/OM: 4 Nov 2007
Kids: D10, S5
Reconciled and together again after (alot of) time and heartbreak.
3rd kid, S, born 2 Jan 2010.