Hi there dday, going back to what I talked to my Ex about meeting someone someday. I think the way I worded it exactly was: I don't plan on living the rest of my life single. So that didn't mean anything for my immediate future. My Ex speaks to me like I'm one of his buddies sometimes. Just someone he talks about work and stuff with. Very casual, very impersonal. He is not emotional at all, at least not in front of me. So when I said that, he was once again, talking to me about my future, that was at the exclusion of him, so my replies were in the same format, if you know what I mean. It was very naturally occurring and I don't think it phased him at all. The frequency that we see each other is a lot, considering we're divorced..he doesn't get time to even miss me! You know how the saying goes...Why buy the cow, when you get the milk for free...well my ex isn't one that's very interested in the "milk" per se, this friendship for him ,I believe, is the "milk". And I believe he's very comfortable here and could go on like this forever. I don't want to push him away..but I don't want to make it so easy...his needs are all being met, he's absolutely fine and admits that. So what should I be doing? Continuing? or encouraging change? 180's? Something else? Nothing? Continuing the way we have been? I'm not sure?
