I posted this on another thread but figured a copy and paste here would be a good update on my stitch.
I have gotten to the place I think you would like to be at. I am a peace with the ending of my marriage. I really do not think about my wife at all. Life right now is peaceful. It bothered me a bit 2 weeks ago. But right now. It does not. I do not miss her. Nor do I think of her physically or emotionly any more. When I talk about her to my MOM or close friends its all very factual and past tense. No present or future thoughts about her. I do not say anything bad about her. It's weird I guess. Its like she is no longer important in my life. Last week when I was down due to the cold, it was very easy to work myself out of it.
When I look at a picture of her, I think of that moment and smile but there is no sigh or regret. I have really been enjoying new friendships, and I have gone out on a few dates. Spent quality time alone. I am not afraid of having nothing to do.
We still have a few things to work out with the selling of the house. But thats it. I guess I am a WAS now as well. It does not matter if we ever work this out. As I have worked on myself and I have forgiven myself. The need to forgive her is not that important. For I realize now that its is somthing that she must do herself. I am not carrying any guilt or regrets.
Detachment is very powerful. I hope you get here one day my friend.
You've basically just described my state of mind, though I am surprised about recent horrendous allegations (Not Taking Them Personally)and apparent attempts to create rifts in blended family (though I am trying not to make any assumptions.)
Mo dating yet, though.
Good place to (finally) be, isn't it?
Gardener
"My soul, be satisfied with flowers, With fruit, with weeds even; but gather them In the one garden you may call your own." Cyrano deBergerac
