I need help in the biggest way. I feel so helpless

[Deep]

Hi THA. I know it's hard, most of us on here do. As puppy puts it, the devastation, the sheer betrayal, are feelings we can empathize with.

You've got Coach and Puppy here, listen carefully, their advice is invaluable.

To me, your H is the way he is now simply beause. He is in the conflicted WAS mode. It's not going to make a lot of sense to you OR him for a while.

It's clear you feel the M can be saved. Give him the space to discover and feel that for himself. Accept he has his own demons to fight and choices to make. Remind him what he would be giving up by focusing on being the best you can be. Don't think about it, don't say it, just do it. Remember that you're doing this for you and not to convince him.

There is always hope, and there's always prayer.