Looks like I might soon be LBS...newcomer here

[Gardener]

b) His behavior exhibits traits of a Passive-Aggressive person.

I can see why he might seem this way from my description on the thread. I will not say that isn't the case. He is quiet more times than not when I am seething, just makes me more angry. He doesn't waste words and his actions are very calculated. He is an observer and he has everyone's number in interactions.

Look it up like gnosis says, bim. It has nothing to do with just being quiet (passive) It is acting angry but expressing nothing: "Yep, I'm mad and I'm going to act mad (snippy, bang cabinets, etc.) and not admit I am mad nor reveal why. I'll make you so exasperated that you'll finally ask me and I'll evasively say "Mad? Me? What on earth are you talking about? What did I do to make you think that? Absolutely nothing. No idea what you're talking about. Must be you or your guilty conscience."

Alternately, it's like SpyBunny's H whacking her, splitting her lip, when he "was only trying to get/move the pillow. That's all. I didn't hit you. I didn't do anything. You can't prove anything, so there!"

I personally have some Passive-Aggressive in me but not to the extent of your H. I deal with it differently. I admit we're not the easiest people in the world to get along. Especially when we feel we've been wronged. Google it for more information, I think it will help you a little.

Bingo, Gnosis. When my ultra P.A. mother was living with us, we drove home once from Gardener Blended Family Annual Seashore Vacation. Mom & me in my Jeep. Mrs. G and others in her car. Upon arriving home, my mother whipped her luggage out of the trunk and stormed upstairs. Didn't talk to me for three weeks. Didn't bother me by then, I thought it was pathetically humorous ("Wonder what it'll wind up to be this time?"). Well, Finally came out that we had the audacity to driver her home in the one car without working air conditioner. This kind of P.A. acts out an "I was wronged. I can't address or express it. So I'll try to make your life hell." charade without talking. At least that's the kind of P.A. I'm quite familiar with. It's also why she know longer lives with us
Rambling again, I know.