Looks like I might soon be LBS...newcomer here

[Gnosis]

Thank you for taking the time. I appreciate it.

You're welcome, don't forget it helped me too.

In the meantime, here's what I see about your H: Your H seems to suffer from paranoia

Hmmmm... never thought of him as paranoid ../snip/... I think of him more as suspicious of me and my intentions, what I'm hiding, what I really mean.

By paranoia I mean:
---> What is she really saying to me?
---> Isn't this just another lie?
---> I dreamt you slept with my brother... No? ... then it means that you slept with someone close to me.

b) His behavior exhibits traits of a Passive-Aggressive person.

I can see why he might seem this way from my description on the thread.

Yeah, sorry, can only work with what I read. I could be mistaken.

He is quiet more times than not when I am seething, just makes me more angry. He doesn't waste words and his actions are very calculated. He is an observer and he has everyone's number in interactions.

Sounds like a passive-aggressive. They don't express their anger with outbursts or violence. They keep it in and use sarcasm, twist words around and other things to vent their anger.

And, as you can see, he also knows that keeping quiet it will push your buttons. A possible 180 for you?

Believe it or not, I am generally a very happy person;

I believe you. When we're in the thick of things, we get so busy focused on the situation that we tend to forget about ourselves. I guess that's why we have to GAL. You've been going through this for 7 years, that's a long time and I commend you for sticking with it. Don't tell him I said so, but he's a lucky man. I hope he wakes up to that fact before its too late.

Re: Attorney

Yes, I did consult one who told me that she didn't think I was ready to move forward. This was about a year ago though, before I joined the DB boards.

Laws change. I recommend you consult another one to find out what your rights are. It CANNOT hurt you to know these. And please BIM, don't tell your H this time!

I mentioned it to my H and he turned it around on me later. "You're the one who called the attorney." Have I mentioned that he turns everything around on me?

I think you did. You've learned your lesson. "Anything you say or do can, AND WILL, be used against you."

No, neither of us has ever moved out. I have gone away a couple of times for 2 weeks at a time on business

Thanks for answering, and no, it doesn't count.

This post is getting long... I'll post some feedback on your updates below.