P.S. Well, too late to edit. The thing is, continuing to try to make XH's actions about you and your past keeps you stuck, feeling like a victim, looking backwards. It also keeps you co-dependent, making his choices about you, what his actions mean about you, etc... This is not what you need and it is an inaccurate way of viewing the world. You HAD your past, now is the time to LIVE well in the present.
